Waiting Until Marriage | Intimacy, Relationships, Temptation, Abstinence, God’s Will

Some of the most meaningful connections happen when we slow down, gather around the table, and share life with the people we love. But what does that kind of connection teach us about true intimacy?
In a world that often portrays intimacy as primarily physical, it's easy to lose sight of what genuine intimacy really means. We’ll explore God's will for relationships and discover how His design for intimacy goes far beyond physical attraction and pleasure, offering a deeper understanding of love, connection, and what it means to be truly known and loved.
In this episode, we'll look at three ways to understand God's will for relationships:
Intimacy with God: The foundation of love and learning to receive His love.
Intimacy with others: Learning to know and love people more deeply by looking beyond appearances.
Intimacy in a romantic relationship: Applying that understanding of love to romantic relationships in a way that honors God's design for marriage.
If you're waiting until marriage for physical intimacy, you don't have to miss out on meaningful connection. Discover how growing closer to God can shape the way you love others, help you cultivate deeper relationships, and prepare you to pursue romantic intimacy that honors God's will.
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“We love because He first loved us.” (1 John 4:19)
“If you declare with your mouth, ‘Jesus is Lord,’ and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved." (Romans 10:9)
“Behold, I stand at the door and knock; if anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and will dine with him, and he with Me.” (Revelation 3:20) 
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Visit FirstKissStory.com to read real-life stories from women who chose to wait for physical intimacy until marriage.  First Kiss Story is not about whether you’ve ever kissed before.  Instead, the first kiss points to the first intimate moment shared within the safety of a marriage covenant.  It is a symbol of unity, devotion, and God’s redemptive design.  And that’s what Waiting Until Marriage is all about!
Become an Insider and get weekly emails from me where you’ll get help with finding hope while waiting, building God-centered relationships, and experiencing true intimacy.  Go to FirstKissStory.com/Insider.
If you're looking for a community of women who are walking this same journey, I'd love to invite you to join my private Facebook group. It's a safe place to find encouragement, ask questions, build meaningful friendships, and grow alongside other women who are pursuing God's best for their relationships.  To join, simply search Facebook for Women Choosing Abstinence Until Marriage.
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Have you ever felt like you’re taking a different path from everyone else to reach the same destination? When it comes to waiting until marriage for physical intimacy, you may want the same thing other women want—a loving, committed marriage.  But you’ve chosen a different way to get there. And when the people around you are doing things differently, it can be difficult to stay committed to your decision.
In this episode, we’re talking about what it means to be obedient to God even if you don’t do everything perfectly.  You’ll discover:
How to handle temptation
What to do when you stumble
Why struggling along the way doesn’t mean you’ve made the wrong choice
If you’ve ever questioned your decision to wait or wondered whether you’re making your relationships harder than they need to be, this episode will encourage you to keep moving forward in faith. You’ll also be reminded that waiting for physical intimacy until marriage is about more than reaching your wedding day. It’s an opportunity to grow in your relationship with God, learn to trust Him, and seek His will for your life right now.
You don’t have to follow everyone else’s path to reach your destination. And you don’t have to walk perfectly to keep walking with God. You can keep choosing His way, one decision at a time.
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“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9)
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Visit FirstKissStory.com to read real-life stories from women who chose to wait for physical intimacy until marriage.  First Kiss Story is not about whether you’ve ever kissed before.  Instead, the first kiss points to the first intimate moment shared within the safety of a marriage covenant.  It is a symbol of unity, devotion, and God’s redemptive design.  And that’s what Waiting Until Marriage is all about!
Become an Insider and get weekly emails from me where you’ll get help with finding hope while waiting, building God-centered relationships, and experiencing true intimacy.  Go to FirstKissStory.com/Insider.
If you're looking for a community of women who are walking this same journey, I'd love to invite you to join my private Facebook group. It's a safe place to find encouragement, ask questions, build meaningful friendships, and grow alongside other women who are pursuing God's best for their relationships.  To join, simply search Facebook for Women Choosing Abstinence Until Marriage.
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Have you reached the point where you don’t want to keep doing things the way you’ve always done them?
In this episode, I share a surprising connection between the people I observed during years of commuting by train and the patterns we can sometimes repeat in our own lives. You may recognize yourself in those familiar routines—doing things the same way, getting the same results, and wondering why nothing changes. But real change begins when you reach the point where you genuinely want something different. No one else can make that decision for you. You’ll also hear the story of the prodigal son and discover what happens when we turn toward God with a repentant heart and choose to walk with Him in a new direction.
This episode will encourage you to stop repeating the same patterns as you choose God’s way and take the first step toward beginning again.  You don’t have to have every step figured out before you begin. When you choose to turn toward God, He meets you where you are and walks with you one step at a time.
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The Parable of the Prodigal Son – Luke 15:11-24
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Visit FirstKissStory.com to read real-life stories from women who chose to wait for physical intimacy until marriage.  First Kiss Story is not about whether you’ve ever kissed before.  Instead, the first kiss points to the first intimate moment shared within the safety of a marriage covenant.  It is a symbol of unity, devotion, and God’s redemptive design.  And that’s what Waiting Until Marriage is all about!
Become an Insider and get weekly emails from me where you’ll get help with finding hope while waiting, building God-centered relationships, and experiencing true intimacy.  Go to FirstKissStory.com/Insider.
If you're looking for a community of women who are walking this same journey, I'd love to invite you to join my private Facebook group. It's a safe place to find encouragement, ask questions, build meaningful friendships, and grow alongside other women who are pursuing God's best for their relationships.  To join, simply search Facebook for Women Choosing Abstinence Until Marriage.
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Have you ever wondered how your childhood shaped what you learned about intimacy?
The way you experienced love, affection, relationships, and marriage growing up can influence how you approach intimacy as an unmarried woman. But your childhood does not have to determine your future.
In this episode, we’ll look at the stories of four women who came from very different backgrounds. Two grew up in Christian homes with strong examples of healthy relationships. Two experienced painful childhoods and made difficult choices in their younger years.  And yet, all four ultimately came to the same decision: to reserve physical intimacy for marriage.
So what changed?
Their childhoods were different. Their pasts were different. Their journeys were different. But they discovered a common foundation: intimacy with God.
Your childhood may have shaped what you learned about love and intimacy, but it doesn't have to determine how you approach relationships and physical intimacy as an unmarried woman.
This episode will help you understand how your past may have influenced your view of intimacy and how intimacy with God can become a new foundation for your future relationships and physical intimacy.
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“We know how much God loves us because we have felt his love and because we believe him when he tells us that he loves us dearly. God is love, and anyone who lives in love is living with God and God is living in him.” (1 John 4:16)
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Visit FirstKissStory.com to read real-life stories from women who chose to wait for physical intimacy until marriage.  First Kiss Story is not about whether you’ve ever kissed before.  Instead, the first kiss points to the first intimate moment shared within the safety of a marriage covenant.  It is a symbol of unity, devotion, and God’s redemptive design.  And that’s what Waiting Until Marriage is all about!
Become an Insider and get weekly emails from me where you’ll get help with finding hope while waiting, building God-centered relationships, and experiencing true intimacy.  Go to FirstKissStory.com/Insider.
If you're looking for a community of women who are walking this same journey, I'd love to invite you to join my private Facebook group. It's a safe place to find encouragement, ask questions, build meaningful friendships, and grow alongside other women who are pursuing God's best for their relationships.  To join, simply search Facebook for Women Choosing Abstinence Until Marriage.
Visit firstkissstory.com
Join our email list: firstkissstory.com/insider
WomenChoosingAbstinenceUntilMarriage Facebook Group
Instagram: @firstkiss_story

If you’ve been wounded by unhealthy relationships in the past, you may be wondering how to avoid repeating those same patterns in your next relationship. How can you pray wisely for your future husband, and what can God do in you while you wait?
In this episode, we talk about 3 ways to pray wisely for your future husband:
Pray for his character, not simply for a relationship. Look beyond chemistry and companionship and pray for a man whose relationship with God and whose character reflect the kind of husband you want to build a marriage with.
Pray for discernment to recognize what you couldn’t recognize before. Past relationships can teach us that what someone presents isn’t always the whole story. Learn why information isn’t the same as discernment and why we need God’s wisdom in relationships.
Pray for God to prepare you, not just your future husband. Your waiting can be a season of healing, growing closer to Jesus, and becoming prepared for a healthy, God-centered marriage.
I’ll also share stories from my own journey, including one dating experience from the pre-online-dating era and the surprising story of how I met my husband and discovered that God had been preparing me long before I realized it.
If you’ve experienced heartbreak, unhealthy relationships, or fear of repeating past mistakes, this episode will encourage you to bring your future relationships to God and trust Him with both the man you may one day marry and the woman you are becoming right now.
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“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?” (2 Corinthians 6:14)
“We love, because He first loved us.” (1 John 4:19)
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Visit FirstKissStory.com to read real-life testimonies from women who were wounded by past relationships and learned how to pray wisely for their future husband.  First Kiss Story is not about whether you’ve ever kissed before.  Instead, the first kiss points to the first intimate moment shared within the safety of a marriage covenant.  It is a symbol of unity, devotion, and God’s redemptive design.  And that’s what Waiting Until Marriage is all about!
Become an Insider and get weekly emails from me where you’ll get help with finding hope while waiting, building God-centered relationships, and experiencing true intimacy.  Go to FirstKissStory.com/Insider.
If you're looking for a community of women who are walking this same journey, I'd love to invite you to join my private Facebook group. It's a safe place to find encouragement, ask questions, build meaningful friendships, and grow alongside other women who are pursuing God's best for their relationships.  To join, simply search Facebook for Women Choosing Abstinence Until Marriage.
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Past heartbreak can leave you wondering if what happened in a previous relationship will follow you into your future marriage. But what if those painful experiences can become part of your story without defining what comes next?
In this episode, we’re talking about 4 ways your past heartbreak can become part of your future marriage story:
Learn what your past relationships can teach you about what you truly need…and also what you don’t need.
Recognize unhealthy patterns before you repeat them in future relationships.
Deepen your relationship with God and learn to trust His will through the healing process.
Build a healthier foundation for marriage through forgiveness, communication, boundaries, and emotional intimacy.
If you’re struggling with past heartbreak, loneliness, temptation, or fear of repeating past mistakes, this episode will help you see your healing season differently. We’ll explore how to grow in wisdom, strengthen your relationship with God, and prepare for a God-centered marriage while remaining committed to abstinence and honoring God’s plan for physical intimacy.
Let God use what you’ve been through to prepare you for what’s ahead.
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"Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 3:13-14)
“For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them.” (Ephesians 2:10)
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Visit FirstKissStory.com to read real-life testimonies from women who are walking toward wholeness and purpose as they’re waiting until marriage.  We’re not talking about whether you’ve ever kissed before.  Instead, the first kiss points to the first intimate moment shared within the safety of a marriage covenant.  It is a symbol of unity, devotion, and God’s redemptive design.  And that’s what Waiting Until Marriage is all about!
Become an Insider and get weekly emails from me where you’ll get help with finding hope while waiting, building God-centered relationships, and experiencing true intimacy.  Go to FirstKissStory.com/Insider.
If you're looking for a community of women who are walking this same journey, I'd love to invite you to join my private Facebook group. It's a safe place to find encouragement, ask questions, build meaningful friendships, and grow alongside other women who are pursuing God's best for their relationships.  To join, simply search Facebook for Women Choosing Abstinence Until Marriage.
Visit firstkissstory.com 
Join our email list: firstkissstory.com/insider 
WomenChoosingAbstinenceUntilMarriage Facebook Group
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What if your greatest strength is being built where no one can see it.
This episode explores how your past can affect the way you approach intimacy, relationships, and waiting until marriage, and why the foundation God is building in you may be stronger than what you can see on the surface.
Discover what a story of a mailbox teaches us about building a strong foundation.
Learn how your past can influence how you view intimacy and your own worth.
Find out what God may be building in you during your season of waiting for marriage.
Explore what intimacy with God really means.
Understand why finding “The One” shouldn’t become the ultimate goal and why God must remain the foundation of your identity, purpose, and worth.
If you’re waiting until marriage for physical intimacy, you may question whether you’re missing out, falling behind, or if God has forgotten about you.  But He is inviting you into intimacy with Him right now.
You may not be able to see everything God is strengthening in you during this season of waiting, but that doesn’t mean He’s not doing something important.
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“The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock.” (Matthew 7:25)
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Visit FirstKissStory.com to read real-life testimonies from women who are walking toward wholeness and purpose as they’re waiting until marriage.  We’re not talking about whether you’ve ever kissed before.  Instead, the first kiss points to the first intimate moment shared within the safety of a marriage covenant.  It is a symbol of unity, devotion, and God’s redemptive design.  And that’s what Waiting Until Marriage is all about!
Become an Insider and get weekly emails from me where you’ll get help with finding hope while waiting, building God-centered relationships, and experiencing true intimacy.  Go to FirstKissStory.com/Insider.
If you're looking for a community of women who are walking this same journey, I'd love to invite you to join my private Facebook group. It's a safe place to find encouragement, ask questions, build meaningful friendships, and grow alongside other women who are pursuing God's best for their relationships.  To join, simply search Facebook for Women Choosing Abstinence Until Marriage.
Visit firstkissstory.com
Join our email list: firstkissstory.com/insider
WomenChoosingAbstinenceUntilMarriage Facebook Group
Instagram: @firstkiss_story

Are you struggling to say “No” in relationships because you’re afraid of losing someone you care about? Healthy boundaries in relationships are about so much more than saying no to physical intimacy before marriage.  They can help you protect your heart, recognize unhealthy relationship patterns, build self-worth, and make wise choices about the man you allow into your life.
In this episode, we’ll look at five ways to build healthy boundaries for marriage, including how to stop fear from making your relationship decisions, what a man’s response to your boundaries can reveal about his character, and why being selective about the men you date can save you from trying to make the wrong relationship work. Most importantly, you’ll discover how your “No” can actually make room for a bigger “Yes” – to peace, wholeness, God’s way, and the kind of God-centered intimacy you truly desire.
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Visit FirstKissStory.com to read real-life testimonies from women who struggled to say “No” but found ways to build healthy boundaries before marriage.  We’re not talking about whether you've ever kissed before.  Instead, the first kiss points to the first intimate moment shared within the safety of a marriage covenant.  It is a symbol of unity, devotion, and God’s redemptive design.  And that’s what Waiting Until Marriage is all about!
Become an Insider and get weekly emails from me where you’ll get help with finding hope while waiting, building God-centered relationships, and experiencing true intimacy.  Go to FirstKissStory.com/Insider.
If you're looking for a community of women who are walking this same journey, I'd love to invite you to join my private Facebook group. It's a safe place to find encouragement, ask questions, build meaningful friendships, and grow alongside other women who are pursuing God's best for their relationships.  To join, simply search Facebook for Women Choosing Abstinence Until Marriage.
Visit firstkissstory.com
Join our email list: firstkissstory.com/insider
WomenChoosingAbstinenceUntilMarriage Facebook Group
Instagram: @firstkiss_story

Your past doesn't have to be the end of your story. God's will is still possible as you choose to walk forward with Him.
You'll hear me share my own journey of moving beyond unhealthy relationship patterns and learning to trust God with an unknown future. If you're choosing to do things differently, either healing from past mistakes or have always desired to honor God by waiting for marriage, you are not alone.
Together, we'll talk about some of the fears and struggles that can come with choosing God's way:
Waiting on God's timing when you're afraid the future you hope for may never happen
Breaking unhealthy relationship patterns and wondering whether you have what it takes to do things differently
Overcoming temptation when you've experienced physical intimacy before and are now choosing abstinence until marriage
Trusting God with an unknown future, even when you fear you may never get married
Standing firm in your decision to wait when others don't understand your choice
This episode also touches on God's design for physical intimacy, unintended pregnancy, and the sensitive subject of abortion, with a message of God's grace, healing, and restoration for every woman whose past includes experiences or decisions she wishes had been different.
No matter where you've been or what your story looks like today, God can meet you right where you are and lead you forward. Your journey doesn't have to be defined by your past. There is hope, healing, and a future as you continue walking with Him.
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“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.” (Proverbs 3:5-6)   
“No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that you will be able to endure it.” (1 Corinthians 10:13)
“But the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.  Against such things there is no law.” (Galatians 5:22-23)
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Visit FirstKissStory.com to read real-life testimonies from women who realized God’s will was still possible, regardless of their past.  It’s not about whether you have ever kissed before.  Instead, the first kiss points to the first intimate moment shared within the safety of a marriage covenant.  It is a symbol of unity, devotion, and God’s redemptive design.  And that’s what Waiting Until Marriage is all about!
Become an Insider and get weekly emails from me where you’ll get help with finding hope while waiting, building God-centered relationships, and experiencing true intimacy.  Go to FirstKissStory.com/Insider.
If you're looking for a community of women who are walking this same journey, I'd love to invite you to join my private Facebook group. It's a safe place to find encouragement, ask questions, build meaningful friendships, and grow alongside other women who are pursuing God's best for their relationships.  To join, simply search Facebook for Women Choosing Abstinence Until Marriage.
Visit firstkissstory.com
Join our email list: firstkissstory.com/insider
WomenChoosingAbstinenceUntilMarriage Facebook Group
Instagram: @firstkiss_story

What if waiting until marriage for physical intimacy isn't about what you're giving up but about what God is making room for?  Choosing abstinence before marriage can sometimes feel like a disruption. You may wonder if waiting will make relationships more difficult, interfere with your love story, or make it harder to find someone who shares your values. But what if God's way of doing relationships leads to something far more valuable?
In this episode of Waiting Until Marriage, discover what it means to wait well, resist temptation, trust God's timing, and grow in intimacy with God.
You'll discover three stages of realization:
This is going to mess up my life. Changing the way you've always approached relationships can feel disruptive.
Wait… I CAN actually make this work. Choosing God's way may require you to rearrange your expectations, boundaries, and dating habits, but waiting doesn't mean your life becomes empty or deprived.
The benefit is worth the adjustment. When you understand how God can use the waiting season to protect, prepare, heal, strengthen, and teach you to trust Him, you can begin to see abstinence in a completely different way.
Waiting well isn't about simply surviving abstinence. It's about learning to see the waiting differently and discovering a deeper intimacy with God. 
“Whoever drinks of the water that I shall give him shall never thirst; but the water that I shall give him shall be in him a well of water springing up into everlasting life.” (John 4:14)
Visit FirstKissStory.com to read real-life testimonies from women who found the path to resist temptation while waiting until marriage.  It’s not about whether you have ever kissed before.  Instead, the first kiss points to the first intimate moment shared within the safety of a marriage covenant.  It is a symbol of unity, devotion, and God’s redemptive design.  And that’s what Waiting Until Marriage is all about!
Become an Insider and get weekly emails from me where you’ll get help with finding hope while waiting, building God-centered relationships, and experiencing true intimacy.  Go to FirstKissStory.com/Insider.
If you're looking for a community of women who are walking this same journey, I'd love to invite you to join my private Facebook group. It's a safe place to find encouragement, ask questions, build meaningful friendships, and grow alongside other women who are pursuing God's best for their relationships.  To join, simply search Facebook for Women Choosing Abstinence Until Marriage.
Visit firstkissstory.com
Join our email list: firstkissstory.com/insider
WomenChoosingAbstinenceUntilMarriage Facebook Group
Instagram: @firstkiss_story